Parents really can learn how to talk to a difficult teenager and reduce fights or frustration, and improve communication. This article describes effective responses to verbal manipulation or accusations most common in teenagers. The right words in the right tone can help you regain your authority and model maturity.
WHAT you say and do depends on your unique situation, your teenager, and what the problem is. There may be ‘magic’ words that work for your child but not others. You’ll want to experiment and modify them over time because your child will change. It’s up to you to thoughtfully choose which responses are effective at reducing negative behaviors and improving the relationship.
HOW you say it may be as important as what you say, because controlling your voice and attitude is an important skill for effectiveness. Yet pulling this off means getting an iron grip on your own feelings and behavior.